Check out this amazing TAHOMES Ranch Life video about Maddi’s Friesian Ranch (up to 14:45) and Between Horses & Humans (14:45 to end)
Check out this amazing TAHOMES Ranch Life video about Maddi’s Friesian Ranch (up to 14:45) and Between Horses & Humans (14:45 to end)
This is one of our students Kendyl, riding Gosse as a flag bearer.
Here’s Andries 415 Sport in action
Enjoy our photo gallery below…
Between Horses and Humans hosts Leadership classes for 8 weeks each summer. Each class has 10 students, and always starts with a safety check for helmets & proper footwear. Then students introduce themselves to a volunteer, telling them something about themselves.
While I was filming a beautiful girl named Prudence introduced herself to me. She said, “Hi, I’m Prudence. I’m really shy at first but I’m very kind. Once you get to know me I can be pretty crazy too.” What an amazing thing for a shy student like Prudence to approach a complete stranger and display such self awareness many adults I know couldn’t do that!
When introductions are over the students move on to body work, making sure their horse’s coat is in good, clean condition. During this grooming session two students learned how to read the signals Mari gave them. When Mari turns sharply during grooming her owner Cindy asks the students, “Now what did Mari just tell you?” They discuss how Mari is communicating that she doesn’t like to be brushed too hard.
Here you can see Eli cleaning out Mari’s hooves. He shows no fear of being next to such a large animal, and just gets in there and gets the job done. There is plenty of time for the students to pet the horses, groom them, and show them care. When Eli notices a bug bite on Mari’s belly he makes sure she gets some cream for it. However, it’s not always serious business here Program Director Barbara Slade decides a student’s helmet might be better on her head!
Students work in pairs with their horses, learning important teamwork lessons, especially how important it is to work together. When Prudence wanders too far from her partner she quickly realizes she needs to correct. The children are given direction on the next part of the lesson.
Then they put it into practice. What may look like simply walking around an arena is actually teaching the students many important lessons. They are learning to focus on the task at hand. They are learning to work together with their partner and the rest of their classmates to ensure their horse says in the correct position. They are learning how important each team member is. And they are learning how their horse responds to their actions and guidance.
At the Between Horses and Humans Leadership program children learn lifelong lessons about leadership through horsemanship.
Students of the Between Horses and Humans program enjoy the use of the beautiful Maddi’s Friesian Ranch set at the base of the Sierra Nevada Mountains in picturesque Douglas County, Nevada. The Ranch affords 80 acres of open pasture land with lush green grass and sweeping views of the Carson Valley. Lessons provide students with the opportunity to get outside in the fresh air, and to learn valuable lessons through their interaction with the horses and volunteers.
Simply being with a horse can be very uplifting. Each horse has their own personality. Here a student scratches Mari and enjoys Mari’s comical facial expressions.
Students learn about caring for their horses, translating into the lesson that it is important that they also learn to care for themselves.
Students are given time with their volunteers to talk about anything that is on their mind. Opportunities come during the simplest of moments, such as walking the horse back to its stall or pasture. As trust develops between the student and their horse, so too it develops between the student and volunteer. This provides a unique opportunity for students to discuss issues or receive gentle guidance from an impartial adult outside of their parental or guardianship unit.
Working with horses provides children with exposure to situations they would never otherwise have experienced, broadening their horizons and building their confidence through uncertainty. Just like in life, when working with the horses things don’t always go as expected. While being walked around the arena by a small boy, Silver decided it was time to have a roll in the dirt! The student watched as nobody panicked or got upset with him, nobody was angry because Silver wasn’t doing what he was supposed to be doing. They simply experience the moment. When life takes unexpected turns it’s not because you are doing something wrong. And the best way to handle it is to embrace it, be patient, and walk through it.
At Between Horses and Humans students learn to handle the unexpected, understand when routine is important, and that each horse (and each person) is unique. Between Horses and Humans is a safe, nurturing environment where children experience lives changed, hearts healed.
Between Horses and Humans is a leadership through horsemanship program for able-bodied children and youth aged 8 to 24. Students participate in a variety of workshops and lessons with volunteers or Program Director Barbara Slade. The program provides a place for students to learn important life skills and develop confidence.
Participants work with their horses one-on-one doing body work, ground work, and riding. They are given the freedom to explore, fail, succeed, and persevere. Different techniques and obstacles are used to keep the children and horses engaged and interested. Students experience the joy and pride of accomplishment when working with the horses. Self esteem is built through mutual respect and helping students to feel valued.
Things don’t always go as expected. You can see a young student struggling to get his horse to move. He is given the freedom to problem-solve and find his own solution. He is patient and perseveres through the situation and finds his own solution.
Program participation is free to all students, and is funded solely through donations and grants. Amazing volunteers donate their time and talents to run the program. The mission of the program is Lives Changed, Hearts Healed, and with every lesson, workshop, and seminar the program’s director, volunteers, students, and horses live out that mission.
Samantha and Freddie have a very special relationship. Samantha credits Freddie with “basically saving her life”. She had a tough time with a close friend last year, and was suffering from depression. Her time at Between Horses and Humans (BHH) has changed her for the better.
Samantha says Freddie is her best friend – she describes how she even tried to braid his hair once! She enjoys coming out to the ranch and spending time with Freddie in the arena while talking to Barbara Slade (BHH President).
Barbara speaks very highly of Samantha and what she has accomplished. She has a natural ability to work with the horses, and frequently points things out to Barbara about the horses. Samantha can get Freddie to do many things nobody else can get him to do. Samantha is extremely proud of that.
Samantha and Freddie undoubtedly have a very special bond, and Freddie has helped to change Samantha’s life and heal her heart.
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Between Horses and Humans is all about teaching leadership through horsemanship, changing lives and healing hearts. The volunteers at BHH all have such incredible kindness and compassion – they are the heart of the program. While each volunteer is unique and has different gifts and talents, there are certain qualities that all BHH volunteers share.
BHH volunteers are not about recognition and public acknowledgement. They volunteer with generosity and joy, and they look forward to their time with the kids and the horses. They recognize the blessing that comes to them from being a part of life transformation. BHH President Barbara Slade says, “One of the reasons we are so unique is that our people are so humble and kind, and we attract such positive energy. These people are so respectful of the children. That’s my number one thing – to give the child respect.”
The BHH program is all about teaching and guiding children without taking away their being or sense of self. Adults teach, share, and direct, but they do it in such a way as to never make the child feel inferior. Barbara says, “My joy with this program is that I get to listen to these kids. They know what they’re feeling. As an adult I get to listen and discern what they’re saying and feeling. Maybe they need someone to interject. Maybe they just need to be heard. I listen first, then share and direct.”
BHH volunteers avoid saying, “Do it this way” in relation to a problem or issue. Instead they say “In my opinion…” They always give the child a choice as to whether they take the suggestion or not. And in case you were wondering, you can’t lie to a child or a horse! Volunteers are honest.
The heart of BHH volunteers is the heart of the program. Our volunteers are humble, kind, generous, honest, and compassionate. They bring a very special energy to what they do and how they interact with the children. They are the perfect ingredient in the BHH recipe for changing lives and healing hearts.
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“When we are motivated by compassion and wisdom, the results of our actions benefit everyone, not just our individual selves or some immediate convenience. When we are able to recognize and forgive ignorant actions of the past, we gain strength to constructively solve the problems of the present.”
On May 28, 2016 Between Horses and Humans (BHH) was reminded that compassion is most definitely alive and well. Through the generosity and compassion of the Wild Rose Inn in Genoa, Nevada, BHH supporters, friends, family and volunteers, the First Annual BHH May Gala raised approximately $14,000. The entire proceeds will go directly to the operation of the BHH program to help at-risk and struggling youth of Douglas County and surrounding areas.
Dave and Jeannette Bostedt, the owners of the Wild Rose Inn, along with their daughter Sierra, have been so compassionate. They have done so much to make the May Gala a success. They not only put in countless hours preparing, arranging, and organizing, but they also got their family members and friends (many from the Bay area) involved. There are far too many activities and contributions to mention specifically. Needless to say it takes a phenomenal amount of effort to bring together an event such as the BHH May Gala.
Dave created a wine cabinet from old barn wood & chicken wire for the wine raffle – it was an amazing piece of art. Jeannette rented tents and set up the location. Sierra coordinated flyers and ticket sales, and helped with all kinds of preparations. Jeannette’s friends baked delicious, beautiful desserts. Their families traveled long distances to attend. Many of their friends and family donated wine.
The event was spectacular. About 70 guests were in attendance, dressed in their finest garb. Men wore dress pants and suit jackets, and ladies wore elegant dresses. There were even some dashing gentlemen in tuxedos. Guests were excited for the opportunity be manly or ladylike in an elegant, beautiful setting. There was a lot of velvet on display. BHH President Barbara Slade wore a full velvet skirt-jacket combination and velvet gloves, and she was grateful for the extra warmth because it was 43 degrees that night with a very chilly wind and even some light rain at times. But the weather didn’t deter anyone – it simply gave everyone an excellent excuse to dance to the sounds of the band Mixed Company!
The three tents Jeannette had rented were put together to make one large tent, and the heaters (also kindly rented by the Bostedts) helped with warmth too. The tents had two clear sides so guests got to appreciate the beautiful terraced gardens on the grounds of the Wild Rose Inn. The fresh rain meant the garden was simply radiant. It was a perfect setting to enjoy the wonderful meal catered by Ron Benedetti. Tables were sponsored by the Wild Rose Inn and Maddi’s Friesian Ranch.
The wine auction was the talk of the evening. Dave’s wine cabinet was filled with wine, all of which was donated for the event. Guests could buy an old style key for $10 to participate in the raffle. Throughout the evening the MC would give each person an opportunity to open the locks of the wine cabinet. The person who opened first lock won the top shelf of wine and so on for each of the three shelves. Each key came with an elegant, handmade tag showing the BHH logo and a picture or saying. The keys made a great memento, even if the guest didn’t win any wine. This event was fun for everyone, and contributed almost $800 to the fundraising efforts.
Four of the BHH program participants attended the gala, and three of them spoke. It was an excellent opportunity for the children to speak from their hearts about what BHH means to them. It was also an opportunity for the guests to see first hand how their contribution was being used to change the lives of young people.
The event was sponsored by the Wild Rose Inn, Smiths Food and Drug Store in Gardnerville, Maxton, Debbie Hemphill, and Maddi’s Friesian Ranch, as well as many other individuals. The Record-Courier ran an article and included the event in their calendar throughout May. The compassion and love of so many was on display in all aspects of the Gala.
All of the volunteers and participants contributed to the event’s success with a joyful heart and upbeat enthusiasm. It was such a great way to give back to BHH & make a difference while enjoying a fabulous evening. The first year of any fundraising event can be difficult and one never knows precisely what to expect. It is safe to say this year’s event provided an excellent platform from which to launch this annual gala. There’s no doubt the attendees will be back for more next year and will tell all their friends not to miss out. As Barbara Slade says, “If you change the life of one child, it’s brilliant. You were in service and you’ve done enough. But we have the ability to change the lives of so many, which is such a blessing.”
BHH wishes to extend a sincere thank you to everyone who made the May Gala such a blessing! You are proof-positive that compassion is alive and well.
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Silver was a four foot hunter in the competitive showjumping world. His name was Silver Strand – he was extremely successful at the large horse shows. He won at the top level, beating the highest competing horses. Silver came to Between Horses and Humans through President Barbara Slade’s former client. That client purchased Silver, and also Mo & Freddie. She bought him later in life – he was 12 at the time.
When Silver was first purchased he was disinterested in the hunter style. Fortunately his new owner wasn’t keen on that style either, so with Barbara’s help she turned Silver into a jumper. He became involved in jumping competitions – these are events timed for speed as seen in the Olympics. He loved it and was so much happier.
Silver & Mo retired together at the former client’s ranch. Subsequently the owners of that ranch invited BHH to use their facilities for the program. That was when Silver was introduced to working with the children of BHH – his owner kindly allowed the program to use him. When BHH moved to Maddi’s Friesian Ranch in 2013 they just brought Freddie & Rascal.
The owners donated Silver to BHH in August 2014 where he’s been for almost two years now. Silver is a class act. He is a very special horse. He is intelligent and very regal. He has learned to work with the children of the program, and understands that it is okay to work with children. At first Silver wasn’t sure that he wanted to come out of retirement – he seemed to have grown accustomed to relaxing and just being out in the field. However he quickly overcame his initial hesitation and decided that working with the kids was worth it. He made the transition from top competitive horse to changing childrens lives.
At 17 hands Silver is a BIG horse. It’s hilarious because every tiny child who comes to the program undoubtedly wants to work with Silver. They make for a fantastic profile… a tiny figure aback a giant horse. Silver is very dependable, which is probably why small children gravitate towards him. He would never harm a child – kids just love him.
Today Silver is very healthy and he looks great. BHH is a good balance for him – there are 8 horses so no single horse gets overworked. He gets lots of treats and frequent bodywork. Semi-retirement is a good thing for Silver at BHH. Massages, good food, a healthy lifestyle, great pasture, and just the right amount of attention. May we all be so fortunate in our own semi-retirement!
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Barbara Slade has known Rascal since she was born. She bred her parents – Rascal’s father was the successful racehorse Riverman. Rascal is 17 now, and is affectionately known as “The Princess”. She is beautiful, elegant, positive, and very easy to be around. Rascal was owned by a woman Barbara knew. She was bought and trained in dressage, but Rascal just wasn’t taking to it the way she was expected to. The former owner generously donated her to Between Horses and Humans in May 2009, when she became the second horse BHH owned (Freddie was the first). The Board of Directors, parents, and participants of BHH have been in love with her ever since. (was friends with the original owner).
When Barbara speaks of Rascal, she has nothing but praise and adoration. “She has no flaws”, Barbara says of the pretty, gentle horse. When Rascal was first used for the program she was a little fussy, but that didn’t last for long. Soon she was captivated by the children, and seemed to know her role as the gentle partner.
At BHH the children get to choose which horse they work with. Early on in the program they are encouraged to use a wide variety of horses, but after a while children tend to gravitate towards a particular horse. Many children choose to work with Rascal because she is so easy-going and nurturing. She quickly convinces them that large animals are OK – she removes the fear and intimidation many children experience simply because of the size difference between them and their horse. Children blossom with Rascal.
Rascal is loving, kind, upbeat and positive. She truly is BHH royalty. Her laid back, happy demeanor says, “Life is good!” She encourages gratefulness, and gives children the freedom to be themselves, make mistakes, and be forgiven. She doesn’t challenge or ignore the students – don’t let her name fool you. She is an excellent first horse, even though she came to the program second. We could all use a little more beauty, kindness and love – by horse or human. Incorporate more “Rascal” into your day today.
Fred, or Freddie as he is affectionately known, was the first horse ever owned by Between Horses and Humans. Freddie, Silver and Mo belonged to one of Barbara Slade’s former students in competitive show jumping. That student went to college in August 2008 and attempted to sell Freddie before she left. Unfortunately he didn’t sell, so Freddie was donated to BHH.
When the student visited Freddie in Arizona to consider buying him he was a sweetheart. But when they returned to Nevada with him he was difficult. He would get overstimulated, and they couldn’t ground him when there were too many people around. He would adopt uncomfortable energy from others, getting himself worked up so that Barbara’s student couldn’t get him calmed down. To a certain degree he is still that way, but now he understands how to be around excess energies without adopting them himself. He can be overly sensitive to excess energy as well as impatient – sometimes he just won’t stand for grooming.
Back then Barbara used to joke that Freddie might have been bipolar – one minute he was being very aggressive, and the next he was cowering as if to say, “Don’t hit me!” Someone must have been inconsistent with him in the past. Consistency was very important for Freddie. To help him through his transition, Barbara and her student did ground work and riding on a daily basis. Over time they taught him to be more in control of his own energy, and he learned to trust his owner. He was a beautiful mover, and he jumped with impeccable form. He was a very powerful horse with grace and style, and he enjoyed a long and recognized jumping career.
Freddie is currently 24 years old, but he looks like he’s half that age. He has a youthful twinkle in his eye and a playful nature. When I was at the barn preparing for this article all Freddie wanted to do was lick my hand. He wasn’t interested in being petted or scratched, he just kept licking and nuzzling my hand. He was very gentle, but incredibly persistent. Barbara says he’s always been mouthy, he just loves to lick, lick, lick, especially after he’s been fed. Recently someone proposed that it could be a sign of ulcers in his youth that give him the tendency to want to lick so much.
Freddie’s persistence comes from his strong tendency to be the Alpha, which means he isn’t the horse for every student right away. They must earn the opportunity to work with him. He’s an excellent horse for developing horsemanship skills because he requires that you understand how to be a firm leader without aggression. If students are to aggressive he’s their face, letting them know who’s boss. They must understand how to signal him correctly, and then he is compliant and cooperative.
Freddie loves working with the BHH students. He’s vivacious and lively, and many people are instantly attracted to his personality. He is very intelligent, and is a master at understanding people. He’s very suave, knowing how to make people like him while still retaining his dominance. If a child is aggressive and bossy he cures them by letting them know he can take control in a second. Yet he also knows how to get the timid and shy students to come out of their shells. He simply persists.
Of the 8 horses in the barn at Maddi’s Friesian Ranch Freddie was the only one afraid of balloons. While all the other horses were walking around them and letting them hit them in the legs and face, Freddie wanted nothing to do with them. Freddie always has to know where everyone is and what they are doing. When Rascal joined Freddie at the ranch in 2009 they were turned out together, but Barbara quickly realized Rascal was promoting Freddie’s Alpha nature. Then Barbara put him out with a gelding. At first the arrangement was okay, but then Freddie began bossing the gelding around making him run around the paddock when Freddie decided that’s what should happen. Finally they put Freddie out alone, and he became a completely different horse – he could relax and be himself without the constant worry of what others were doing.
Freddie is an incredible asset to Between Horses and Humans. He’s a sophisticated gentleman, and BHH is incredibly grateful for the donation of Freddie back in 2008. He is an integral part of changing lives and healing hearts. You can be a part of that too. Please leave a comment or make a donation.
Photos by Nicole Eyerly
Mari is an intelligent, loving horse with a definite soft spot for children. And like the children she works with today, she’s suffered from acting out of fear and intimidation. Between Horses and Humans has changed Mari’s life and continues to heal her heart.
Neither Mari nor her owner Cindy Cowan had any idea what was in store for them when Cindy bought the horse from a local couple in November 2009. The couple brought Mari to Nevada from Iowa to be a show horse and be part of a breeding facility. Mari is the granddaughter of the famous national show horse Color of Fame. She is a saddle-bred crossed with arabians, and has a distinct beauty and grace.
In 2009 Cindy’s beloved gray arabian died after 22 years of partnership, so she was open to getting a new horse. That’s when she crossed paths with Mari and the two formed a new partnership… sort of. Mari was sold to Cindy under the guise that Mari was well-broke, but it didn’t take long for Cindy to realize that wasn’t the case. Mari was extremely fearful, and would rear up at the slightest disturbance. It turned out that Mari had received training in Nevada from a cowboy who “broke her in” in 6 weeks. Based upon Mari’s level of fear and intimidation Cindy knew there had been some cruel tactics and techniques used with the horse prior to her owning Mari. After many attempts to work with her new horse with little improvement, Cindy began looking for help.
Barbara Slade was working as horse trainer and was involved in the foundation that eventually became Between Horses and Humans, and she began working with Cindy and Mari. Cindy moved Mari to the Imar ranch where Barbara worked. Together the three of them worked to help Mari overcome her previous bad experiences and to build a relationship of trust. The foundation owned Rascal & Fred at that time, and Barbara was often working with children near Mari’s stall. The children would look at the horses, deciding whether to work with Rascal or Fred on a particular day. During those moments Cindy and Barbara began to notice Mari staring longingly at the children as if to say, “Pick me!”.
Eventually Barbara agreed to allow the children to do ground work with Mari – she was still too risky for the students to ride at that point. Mari loved the kids, and would wrap her neck around them, nuzzle them, and be playful and gentle. Eventually she proved herself enough that the students would ride her. Mari was very different when she worked with the children. She was always careful and rarely displayed any of her fearful, rearing up behavior. She loved the students.
Eventually the foundation program moved to a different ranch, but Mari stayed behind because she wasn’t part of the program and there wasn’t room for her at the new ranch. Barbara continued to work with Cindy and Mari, and she showed vast improvement. Mari likes to think, and she loves to do tricks. Cindy was inspired when she saw the show Cavalia and she began to teach Mari some of the moves. She began with the stump, then moved on to the pedestal, taught her to hold her legs up, take a bow, and play with balls, hoops, ribbons and so on. Mari loved it, and it helped them to build their relationship of trust. The fearful behavior became more and more scarce.
Mari was reunited with the BHH program when they moved to Maddi’s Friesian Ranch in 2014. She is wonderful with the students, and they definitely enjoy her affinity for performing tricks. She was injured this year – she hurt her back and it has taken months to recover so she wasn’t being ridden much. She is recovering well and is almost back to her former health. As soon as she’s fully recovered she’ll be back to her regular schedule of working with BHH students on Mondays, Tuesdays, Saturdays, and sometimes Fridays, as well as her regular rides with Cindy.
Mari is an asset to the BHH program, and her journey through fear to triumph is an inspiration to BHH students. A huge thanks to Cindy Cowan for her generosity in lending Mari to the BHH program.
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Photos by Nicole Eyerly
Between Horses and Humans has come a long way from it’s beginnings in 2004. The program was started by a local Douglas County resident. She wanted to fund a program where trainers/clinicians worked with competitive riders to help the trainers learn different ways of working with horses. The goal was to better the human and horse relationship. The method was to “train the trainer”: participants would pass what they had learned on to their students.
The early days of the program consisted of scarce resources and simple methods. There was no dedicated facility for trainers and competitive riders, and the program owned no horses. Participants worked out of the barns where the trainers worked, and the students owned their own horses.
Barbara Slade, current President and 38-year professional horseman, was involved with the Between Horses and Humans program from the beginning. She became co-president along with the founder in 2008 when the founder planned to close the foundation. Barbara took the reins (pun intended) in 2009 and hasn’t looked back since. She came with a fresh perspective and new goals for the program.
Barbara talks about her inspiration for BHH back then. “One morning I picked up the paper and saw that an 11-year-old had hung himself. I was shocked and filled with dismay. Then I spoke with someone whose child couldn’t find the strength and courage to get out of bed and face another day of being bullied. Yet another conversation tugged at my heart-strings: a child was so devastated by the unexpected death of a parent they completely shut down, no longer wanting to talk or smile or play, becoming despondent and angry. So I asked myself, “What difference could I make in the lives of children who are suffering?”” BHH became the answer to that question. Barbara directed her energies towards using the program to work with children with difficult life situations, personal challenges, social, emotional and behavioral issues. The mission became “providing a place for youth to learn leadership and life skills through horsemanship”.
Since its inception BHH has helped approximately 500 children and young people, along with their families, to learn, grow, love, smile, and lead themselves to a bright future. The future of BHH is bright too. Volunteers, board members, students, parents, horses, donors and supporters are building a community of support around BHH to ensure it continues to provide valuable resources to meet the needs of young people in our community.
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